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Our Family
The Stephenson's

Monday, May 20, 2013

25 more days...

25 more days until we get our meeting about the possibility of having two rays of sunshine in our house. 25 more days to make one more step in this long process. 25 more days of thinking about them, wanting to know more about them. 25 more days of wondering what they are doing and if they know that we are thinking about them.

It seems like the long journey has just begun, and it's going to be a very long one for sure!

Each day I think of more and more ways our lives are going to be forever full. It warms my heart, gets me excited and anxious. The smallest things make me think of the wonderfulness of having M&S in our lives. I really can't wait. I want to be a mom so bad. I want to see Sean be a dad even more. Even though these will not be our biological children, they will always be considered 'ours' once we have them.

There was a little update that I discovered this weekend. M&S are listed on a website, which was updated with this message:

This makes me happy! Very happy!

Friday, May 10, 2013

BIP

Best Interest Placement meeting (BIP)

We were informed on Tuesday, May 8th, that we were selected to attend a BIP meeting in reference to M&S. The meeting is scheduled for June 14th, over a month away!

BIP is used to get a sense if we are a good match for the kids. If they feel our family is, then a full disclosure meeting is scheduled. This usually happens a couple of weeks weeks after the BIP meeting.

So that is where we stand now. One more step closer! Even though it is a long process, we are extremely excited that we were selected.

In the meantime, we stress over the upcoming PCS. We are coming to accept that Sean will be leaving to report to his new station in July/August and I will be staying here a bit longer in hopes that the process will go through. It's all up in the air!

Monday, May 6, 2013

I kinda fell in love...

Think of the feeling that you get when you have been waiting for something for quite awhile, think of it as just a peek of something, or a picture of something that you have been waiting on. Maybe it could be a celebrity that you have been wanting to see, or being excited to finally get to see Disneyland.

This somewhat slightly describes the feeling that I had on this past Saturday morning when we went to the adoption event. We arrived at the event and walked in right behind the children that we are interested in (M&S). It was like fate! I couldn't believe that we finally were there and going to have the chance to meet them. But then, I didn't know how we were going to actually interact with them. Picture this: Think of it as children playing at a playground, or playing someplace, anyplace. And you, being the strange adults (strangers), need to approach the children and interact with them. It's kind of strange, how do you proceed? Maybe if we had other children we could interact, but we don't. If we knew their foster parents, it would have been easier, but we didn't.

We proceeded to kind of be standoff - ish... Waited around a bit, trying to figure out our approach. By the way, we were not allowed to talk to them about being adopted or letting them know that we were interested. We were approached by some of the placement workers at the event and introduced ourselves. One of the ladies happened to be their placement worker. She soon brought the girls over to us and we were able to introduce ourselves. My heart melted... Two small little, nervous, cute girls stood before us. We shook hands and said hello.

After that the girls went to play basketball, and we tagged along. It was kind of awkward at first, but we did the best that we could. I wanted to be around them so bad! We played some with them, but mostly stood near by to be able to catch the ball when it was out of their reach. We didn't want to be too invasive. This is how the first half of the day went. The Lobo basketball players came out and also played basketball with the kids. Lunch was served and we sat close by. I spoke to their foster mom and informed her that we were going to be hanging out with them because we were seriously interested. She seemed slightly short with us at the time, but under such a strange situation it was expected.

Overall, the feeling was still awkward and creepy, and we also felt like we were being watched by their consultant and placement worker. The afternoon proceeded with the Lady Lobo's coming out and running drills with the kids and then they turned on some music so the kids could dance and line dance. Towards the end the girls were dancing all over the place: one was break dancing and the other was tumbling down the floor.

At the end of the event, their foster parents brought the girls over to us and said goodbye. We shook hands and told them that it was nice to meet them. How I wanted to just grab them and run! But I kept my cool in hopes to see them again. I kinda fell in love.

Once we were home, I instantly sent their worker and email, letting her know that we were still extremely interested in the girls and to proceed with pulling our home study. Now we are waiting again, to see how we can proceed. I am so glad that the ball is rolling now. I just wish it would roll a little faster!

Friday, May 3, 2013

April Showers Bring May Flowers!

So lets go over the month of April....

We have been working with CYFD to become licensed Foster/Adoption parents. It has been a long process. It's mostly been a waiting game on our side. Which becomes really trying! But some good things have happened in April.

Mid April we had our respite experience where we watched someone elses foster kids for a night. This went really well. We had 3 siblings in our house for a night and a Saturday and really had a great experience with them. We watched Life of Pi and went to the Auto Show in Albuquerque the next day. The children were great, kinda a handful, but for 7 year olds, it's expected! The dogs did wonderful with them!

The week after that we were officially licensed as Foster/Adoptive Parents! YAY! Our worker came over and had a quick visit with us to confirm what we were looking for in potential adoptive children. She mentioned to us that the agency has adoption 'fairs' throughout the year and that there should be one coming up in May. I was definitely excited to hear about that. We had already inquired about a sibling group on two young girls (M&S), but hearing that we could potential meet them and more children available made me even more excited.

The afternoon of April 29th, I received an email from our worker mentioning that the upcoming adoption event is this coming Saturday! Talk about exciting! I was beside myself with JOY! Extremely happy that it was coming up and since I just found out, we would not have to wait too long to meet the children. The next day I received another call from our worker letting us know that the sibling group we inquired about (M&S) were going to be there. Their worker wanted to ensure we were there to interact with them. If that goes well we can schedule another meeting with them. Holy Moly! I am so excited!!!!

So the event is tomorrow. I really can not wait!

April Showers bring May Flowers!!!